> Windmill wrote:
>> Being asexual lets me appreciate what roleplaying would add to sex.
>> Roleplaying with sex > vanilla sex.
> So you've never had even the slightest interest in sex? That's fascinating.
Over the years, ever since I realised I am asexual, I have been able to build up and grow into an appreciation for sex. But physically, no, my body just does not care. I just am not sexually attracted to people nor desire sex. That doesn't mean I couldn't mentally decide to HAVE it. Like, I could choose to have sex, though when you're not physically attracted to someone, that actually makes it really hard.... but whatever SirConnery wrote:
> Doesn't being asexual instead just place you outside of the sexual spectrum
> looking in? You can still participate if you so desire, but you have the ability
> to put yourself outside that box and better judge the consequences of the actions.
> Maybe it's a blessing and a curse?
Well... its a tricky one.
I look in and could choose to participate. In the same way, a straight male could choose to participate in sex with another male. That is the best way to describe it. If you are straight, completely straight, then it would be just like you having sex with another male. Except, for me, its the same with both genders. Now, while a straight male could probably never learn to appreciate/enjoy having sex with another male, I've worked on it, a lot, and have found an appreciation. But that could change at anytime. And hey, I believe in fluid sexuality, so I might change???
Because I have no innate desire, it makes it incredibly easy to say no. I just say no and don't care, because I never wanted it in the first place
my body has no physical desire/need for it. None. I have no side-effects to not having sex. I just stay the same. Its like that is missing from me. I suppose it helps. Its hard to know either way because its never clouded my judgement, so I don't know what it'd be like to cloud my judgement. Love clouds my judgement a lot though... so I guess I can relate
hunger also does, so I can make guesses on what it'd be like. Its good for me I think that I have more time/energy to put into other things.
It also means I'm very much removed, so to me I just don't see a difference between straight/gay sex, male/female attraction. I'd be equally fine with both because.... its just no different. So yeah.
Asexual does take you off the spectrum, since you just aren't on it
Its not that I simply choose to be abstinence. Its not like that. I mean I do, but even if I chose not to be, that wouldn't change my asexuality.