> DiamondDave wrote:
>> longhornsk57 wrote:
> |>> DiamondDave wrote:
>> |>> ^why I don't post two options
> |>> I don't understand, if someone posts two options and someone else picks up the
> |>> option, but you want the 2nd option, is it like "omg so rude and horrible" to
> |>> the guy the other option or try for part of it at a "non steal" price or something?
> |>> Sometimes the unwritten rules on this forum are worse than the MLB..
>> I'll try to explain this again. Here's the flow of action normally:
>> Person A got a deal. They offer deal A or deal B at a loss in return.
>> Person B takes deal A. Person B offers a deal at a loss to make up for taking
>> Person C takes deal. Person C offers a deal, etc~
>> When person Y comes in and taps person A on the shoulder and asks them to give
>> Deal B, because person Y wants Deal B, you're essentially asking Person A to fudge
>> themselves not once, but twice, because you want to get something dumb cheap.
>> Y isn't in the loop, or they would have called dibs on an offer and offered something
>> else, so they're essentially taking without giving at this point. If they were
>> in offer A, they should have sent a trade suggestion for Offer A that was beneficially
>> mutual, but instead decided they wanted to take instead.
>> That doesn't seem a LITTLE inconsiderate to you, at all? This isn't "unspoken
>> this is common courtesy. Don't ask someone to fudge themselves twice because you're
>> looking for a steal. Please?
> No, what bugs me is the assumption that went into it.
> If person Y just didn't post "dibs" in time because this thread goes so fast, and
> if you are just inquiring about it, willing to pay more, or would yourself offer
> something back etc.
> What I am asking about is someone offers TWO options, and you come in 5 minutes too
> late to dibs on one, so you say hey can I dibs the other options from earlier and
> give you something in return, or work something out etc.
> I guess the fact that you immediately think someone is trying to fudge the community
> or get something for free instead of just asking about something is what is annoying
> I thought it was a fun thread to get involved in and I saw something I could actually
> use, so I guess I am a free loading piece of crap (proven by my history here of course)
> for asking about it after the fact of someone taking the other option.
He didn't say anything like that. What he said was exactly how it is meant to be and it's not an unwritten rule at all. It's common sense. BUT the only reason (I believe anyways) he worded it like that was not because he was assuming you didn't mean well but so that there could be no misunderstanding what the (apparently unwritten) rule was.
He wasn't calling you out at all he was just making it clear what he meant to say I think. And also he has given up two very nice bundles for not a ton in return so this is (also what I believe to be) his reasoning for being a little terse in return because people aren't taking things as seriously as they should be. These aren't just giveaways because we hate our stuff and just want to throw it in the trash if someone doesn't want it, these are things we supposedly value very highly that we would almost normally never give up even if someone made a great offer.
The spirit of the thread is basically this if you love it, trade it because it will make someone else happy to get it. And then continue paying it forward. That's why this is a fun and scary thread because you're supposed to be "giving" away a ridiculous deal for fun but you're losing something awesome (or sharing the way I see it) so someone else can enjoy it.
He never called you any names nor do I assume he meant to imply anything negative about you personally.