Tony wrote:> rayzor6 wrote:
>> loztdogs wrote:
> |>> Can you spend to much on family during the holidays??? Cause if you can… I think
> I spent to much.
> |>>
>> I bought my parents over the years alot of gifts and I found out as an adult that
> they never liked what I got...because they never told me. I never knew what to get
> them and so I would get decor for my mom and whatever my dad was into at the time.
>> They never complained but I wish they would have said what they like because
> teenage and early 20 me didn't get it hahaha
>
> Commercialism in the US at Christmas has just about ruined gift giving for me. I
> (almost) always hate giving gifts and receiving gifts at Christmas. The episode of
> Big Bang Theory where Sheldon obsesses over what to get Penny sums it up well: what
> is an appropriate gift for the level of our friendship and how much do I spend? As
> a kid, getting cash was great, but as an adult getting or giving cash seems lazy
> and crass. Gift cards aren't much better, but at least a gift card says "I know enough
> about you to know what you spend your own money on". I can afford to buy anything
> I need and practically anything I just want. My wife does just that. Several times
> she has mentioned wanting something and usually buys it for herself before or sometimes
> after I've bought one to give her for Christmas. The best gifts I've gotten from
> my daughter were ones she made herself. She read aloud and recorded one of my favorite
> books, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, and made me an audiobook. She's living
> with her fiance now and it has been good to give them things they need and want but
> couldn't afford to get for themselves.
>
> Just recently I read where a woman confessed that she made such a fuss over a colorful
> rooster figure one of her children had given her as a gift that now almost every
> gift she receives from anyone is rooster themed. She doesn't particularly like roosters,
> but she didn't want to offend the giver.
Yeah as soon as I hit 18 I opted to not be in the extended family (aunts uncles cousins etc) present exchange thing that they do. Honestly most of them did/do not know me well enough to get me something I would enjoy and that goes both ways which happens when you live several states away. Here and there I will get some gifts for friends as a surprise but not always around Christmas.