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theJaw wrote:

And now begins the three ring circus: Engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering.

MrBean wrote:

Good to hear that everything went well.

When I was young and had my tonsils removed, they told me that I was fighting them on the table so they had to give me a second dose of the anesthetic. In recovery I was told that most people throw up after the surgery and this helped get it out of their system. I never quite felt like throwing up, so it took me longer to recover.

When I had my first colonoscopy a few years ago, they explained the new anesthesia (at least for this procedure) started working almost immediately and you began to wake up almost immediately after it was stopped. Compared to the previous times I had been put under, it was great.

John wrote:

I agree that I missed the basic notion of the post....my apologies.

Question: should their false expectation of compensation be carried out in peer pressure style for all of us? You say it isn't like that anymore...why not? You are completely in the driver seat on whether you tip(yes, including asking at restaurants if they automatically put in the tip for certain sized parties or just in general). So make tipping your own again and don't worry about clashing with false expectations. For the record: I'm very PRO-tipping, but I'm not going to be pressured into when it isn't something I feel should be tipped.

I got help at Home Depot the other day...I'm not going to give him a fiver for telling me where the drywall supplies are.

rayzor6 wrote:


This is what's happening though. The article is stating that the Apple union workers are trying to implement a tipping system. Same concept as home depot, same as Starbucks. Why should we have to offset a low wage employee, doing their job, when their company should be paying them adequately? Regardless of that scenario, the expectation is set to tip when it's visible. Christ, even subway now has a tipping mechanism at check out, and you feel obligated to do so.

Now sure, in any one of these scenarios, if the employee was amazing, and there wasn't a tip system, I'd still tip. Dude came to my house last week to honor my Herman Miller chair warranty. He fixed the problem and replaced crap he didn't need to, just so that I could get the most of my warranty. Gave the guy $20 because that's going above and beyond.

Making a standard cup of coffee, telling me my phone screen is broke, dropping off a pizza? Yeah, none of these are above standard quality, it's your job. Don't push the agenda and make tipping expected, then offsetting emoloyee wages. Sadly, that's what's happened and continues to get worse.

theJaw wrote:

Congratulations!

MrBean wrote:

I understand now. Yeah...I'm not doing that. I just won't support any company that is going to put the burden on ME to 'tip' regular employees because you don't want to pay them

Porksta wrote:
😅

Deleted my Twitter the other day. I made the right decision. It’s a total time waster, and a cesspool.

Went to go see Jurrasic Quest today with my Wife and daughter, my sister. We left the restaurant and I was following my sisters, I noticed as we were turning a cloud of dust and traffic slowed. Seen 4 vehicles pull over and 2 others on from the other direction and people were running towards the cloud. As we got closer we seen that it was a motorcycle and a body laying next to it not moving. We kept going, to many people were stopping and it was going to cause a headache when police and medics showed up. We got to our destination maybe 5 min later and I asked my sister what she seen, and she said that a smaller white car (I seen pulled over just passed the accident) changed lanes and hot the motorcycle. She said he was likely dead. That was also my thoughts since he basically lost control and right into a concrete column. I am sitting in bed now thinking about it, thinking about this person that was on his way someplace and in a blink was gone. Earlier I was at Costco with my wife, daughter and sister and I made a dark joke about it and realized I tend to do this to cope.

Thanks for all the congrats and mildly horrifying warnings yall. @MrBean I’m 33 and she’s 29, we’ve been dating since I was 21 and she was 18. As for kids, time will tell. We only want one if so, but considering I get anxious by having a kitten I imagine I’ll just exist as a human panic attack if I had a real child. We’ll see!

rayzor6 wrote:

I don't think so myself, no, but lots of people do. Especially those getting those tips who are underpaid in their normal pay. In other words, they recognize that they are not getting enough, so tipping requests are their only options. So, I don't WANT to encourage that or support that, of course -- but then again I don't want those people to be so underpaid. It's a tricky situation. In general, for me personally, I don't tip at fast food places.


Because corporate greed has managed to shift the blame for their underpaying onto the consumer.


I tend to agree -- but I also support the plight of the workers who seem clearly underpaid in many positions today who have to rely more and more on tips to get them closer to a living wage. That is why I argue that it is "more complex" than just deciding that you're not going to do it. If you don't, that's fine -- but in many cases it also isn't the employee's fault either. Their employers are underpaying them with the hope that they get tips. Again, their employers have shifted that blame to us. Some of them see it that way. Some do not.


Yes, I tend to feel that way too -- but the reality is that I DO "support" some of those companies. I kinda have to if I want to eat. My close places to eat at lunch if I go out are Qdoba, Noodles, Panera Bread, and a few others. ALL of them give the option to tip now at check-out. My stopping going there often hurts those employees more than the employer.

In other words, as I said, it is indeed more complex than just "I won't support any company that does this." They ALL do this now.

Well said John...it's definitely not a black and white issue on any of those fronts and I poorly presented it that way. I think we all need to do what is best for us BUT I really would hate to 'teach' those companies that when they unfairly pass me their expense: that I need to cover it. I feel for the people there but like you said: I feel they are passing that onto us in order to NOT have to raise prices themselves.

Indeed -- that is exactly what they are doing.

This article includes two phrases that sum up the current state of tipping: "emotional blackmail" and "tipping fatigue"

https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/customers-being...

I feel the way they do it in Taiwan is a great system, if you get takeout or delivery, nothing is expected. If you eat in a restaurant, they charge you a 10% service fee for eating in, and make sure you agree with it before you even order.

That way you aren't paying for service if you go pickup your food etc, everyone gets paid a normal wage, and they have a small delivery fee if you get delivery (about $1.50 US or less) and the drivers are paid a normal wage plus cost of gas etc.

Nowhere else to post this… fudgein Celtics, atta boy.

When you can't sleep because it's uncomfortably warm, you know it's time for the AC.

I was texting and wanted to write the word "have." I just barely missed every letter somehow and instead wrote "jsbr." I sent the text anyway. Wasn't in the mood to deal with another keyboard change. When I want to write something, the keyboard changes it. But when I type a mistake, the keyboard doesn't correct it. Well, at least the keyboard's behavior is somewhat consistent.

So I was making a salad and was going to use ranch dressing, but there just wasn't quite enough in the bottle for my liking, but then I realized that I also had some blue cheese dressing in the fridge, so I just mixed the two together and it was wonderful! Why didn't I think if this sooner? Now I want to try mixing other dressings.

citizen_zane wrote:
Sounds good. I could see ranch pairing well with blue cheese. They both have that 🧀 yness flavor. To me, ranch has a cheeselike flavor going on. And blue cheese well, it's already 🧀.

Go for it. Make other mixtures. You can discover great combos by experimenting.

A relative of mine asked me if I could order something for them. I ordered it, but instead of their name I addressed it to: Dragon drinking from a flagon.

The last time I ordered something for them I addressed it to: Broccoli

It's just more fun this way.

I once sent things to my brother addressed to McButtock and Son.

I didnt think much about it until he texted me and said he had an urgent question, and when I asked him what was up, he said he needed to know whether he was McButtock or whether he was Son.

benstylus wrote:

I do this with checks and Venmo.. If I send someone money, i put int he notes "penis enlargement surgery help" or "boob job fund"... just makes it more fun for the banker

shadyfozzie wrote:

I used to put "sensual massage" in the notes field on checks (back when you used to send checks to buy stuff on ebay!) until someone sent his wife to deposit it and she noticed and he had some 'splainin to do.

So now I try to be a little more careful to not do things that could have ramifications beyond a harmless joke.

benstylus wrote:
Yeah, if you can make a harmless joke at nobody's expense, then why not.

shadyfozzie wrote:

I'd be careful with this. PayPal / Venmo don't allow using their services for "adult content" or services of any kind, and sending joke payment comments can get accounts flagged, limited, or banned. I know several artists who were affected by that crap. It's not fun.

Imagine if you die in a game, the cartridge (or file if it's digital) stops working immediately.

You can either keep buying copies of the game, or up your skill so that you don't die.

nonamesleft wrote:

You have just described the concept of free to play mobile games

Actually, hasn't he just described 80s stand-up video games that took a quarter...

Hrm ... I think it's time for me to buy a new softball bat. I haven't bought one in years as I tend to miss ~40% of the games and just use everyone elses bats like a jerk.

https://smacrapsports.com/products/2023-easton-mar...

Man, I had a great place of emotional growth recently. My wife and I got into a spat over mowing the lawn and my not wanting to do it because I had just fixed my deck belt and I don't trust my handy work that something wasn't going to fly out. My wife was worried it was going to rain and that I was not going to mow at all and got upset, especially because our neighbors with the exception of the husband and 1 grandchild: they treated us like CRAP when we kept trying to reach out and be friendly...but that's a whole other thing.

Anyway, I felt like I was being treated like my opinion was nothing and I got mad because I won't talk to her the way she was talking to me. I blew up and I just felt trapped...not in my marriage but just in life because work is still up in the air as far as whether this company is going to work out and I can take EITHER work or home being chaos, but not both.

So my wife and I start talking about it and I realize that I was a total hypocrite on many things I claim are important. My communication sucked. I gave 20% of the info and expected her to just trust me on the rest and then didn't communicate at all once she pushed back.

I realized that getting mad all the time sucks and is the catalyst for how I feel miserable all the time. It's pride. My work shouldn't treat me this way, my wife shouldn't talk to me this way, etc, etc.

I have created this tendency that says "I will show you respect and YOU need to show me the same or else" and honestly: some of the things I considered disrespect towards me are stupid. Like at work, I cannot create a quote in Salesforce without it going to another pricebook that isn't applicable and it ruins the whole thing. I'm mad because no one seems to consider it important and I have to keep bringing it up. Yes, Ray...you can do that. You aren't that important that people are going to rally around you and try to fix your problem.

Anyway, once I saw how hypocritical and wrong I was...when I thought I was in the right: I've really changed. I don't get mad anymore because I don't like that feeling. I used to joke around ALL the time and it's been nice to getting back to that and feeling like I'm enjoying each day rather than wanting to be ended.

TL:DR: I was wrong and seeing myself be wrong taught me that my approach in life sucked and to stop being a douche. I'm happy for it! :D

Pride is the worst. Definitely been blinded by it in the past and it's taken it's toll in some of my relationships. Hope your new perspective brings you a much more joyful life.

Ever see a school bus rumble by and leave a large cloud of smoke in its wake?

That can't be good.

Cherry tomatoes are the Crunch Berries® of salad.

They even sell the oops all berries version!

bill wrote:

Cherry tomatoes are tasteless water balloons.

That was one of the craziest finishes to a Celtics game I've ever seen. gosh darn.

After eating about 1/4 of my food from Buffalo Wild Wings, I started feeling like I can't eat anymore... that's when I started thinking "I'm going to start eating like a rabbit now and just eat veggies," but then I thought "Wait a minute... I've seen quite a few fat rabbits in the wild.... HOW are they fat rabbits if they only eat veggies?"

HybridCRoW wrote:
Ha. Maybe their bodies process veggies in a different way and they're able to gain weight from vegetables much more easily than compared to if a person were to eat carrots and celery?

nonamesleft wrote:


Gorillas are vegetarian and you never see one working out.

Tony wrote:
There muscles are made like that. The issue is as a result, they need more calories and eat more. Humans on the other hand can change muscle mass overtime. Also vegetables can be high in fat and calories at times.

Well didn't know that Steam releases new games at 11AM instead of midnight. Kind of find it odd they do that or is that title to title.