akfa wrote:> nonamesleft wrote:
>> akfa wrote:
> |>> nonamesleft wrote:
>> |>> akfa wrote:
> |>> |>> nonamesleft wrote:
>> |>> |>> akfa wrote:
> |>> |>> |>> I haven't seen my dad in person for about 9 years, and he just 'unexpectedly'
>> |>> |>> RSVP'd
> |>> |>> |>> to my daughters quinceanera in May. oof! I don't have any qualms with
>> him,
>> |>> but
>> |>> |>> it's
> |>> |>> |>> just not my comfort zone. I'm the only one who is "less than excited",
>> but
>> |>> I
> |>> |>> can't
> |>> |>> |>> quite pinpoint why that is. I feel guilty about not being hyped.
>> |>> |>> Does he live far away, to have been away for 9 years?
> |>> |>>
> |>> |>> I live in Texas, he lives in Nebraska. Not super far, but we've just never
>> been
>> |>> that
> |>> |>> close as a family, really. When I had kids I always wondered why my dad didn't
>> |>> do
> |>> |>> stuff with me that I LOVE to do with my kids, and realized he just wasn't
>> that
>> |>> into
> |>> |>> being a dad I guess, so it's just been weird feelings all around.
>> |>> So then why would he suddenly come to the quinceanera? Did he used to hang
> out
> |>> with
>> |>> your kids and then one day just stopped coming over?
> |>>
> |>> He's retired, doesn't have much to do, I sent an invite to both my parents "as
>> a
> |>> memento" but my dad actually RSVP'd and said he booked a hotel for that day.
> Lol.
> |>>
>> Well, you did send the invite 😅
>> Hey, maybe it'll be great. It's not like you're going to uninvite him, right?
>
> Yeah, I wouldn't uninvite him. What will most likely happen is I will dread it internally,
> be anxious, then everything will work out fine and I'll think, "That wasn't bad afterall".
>
Hopefully it's that at the least, or maybe even better.