BucketofJustice wrote:> Reach out and try to figure out what’s going on and what happened to get where
> you are. Could be a case of drifting apart, or like you suspect there may be more.
> If you don’t get a response, at least you tried. Whether he responds or not is
> on him, not you.
>
> About a year ago I tried to get together to hang out with who I thought was my best
> friend a few times over the course of a couple months. It didn’t work out, and
> I was made to believe that I was the issue, so I cut off all communication and dropped
> her off every social media thing I had and deleted some stuff I didn’t use anyway
> that she used a lot. I wish I had communicated better about that, but I can’t change
> what I did. I did try to reach out a couple months ago, but didn’t get a response,
> which is fine.
>
> Don’t be hasty and do what I did.
There are plenty of friends that I drifted apart from. I accepted that and moved on without any hard feelings. This feels different partly because of how the friendship endured so many phases of life including some long periods where we were hundreds of miles apart. Like I said we'd been friends for 30 years. Now we're in the same city and he can't be bothered to reach out? The only factor that's changed is my proximity to him and that his wife is in the picture. I know I shouldn't assume things but I can't but speculate why he'd act like this.
SwiftJAB wrote:> Personally, I'd let it go and move on. If he values you as a friend, he'll reach
> out one day and you can have the opportunity to talk about all this. Other than getting
> an answer to a question, I don't think it will change your relationship with him.
>
>
> Also, until you get those answers and the reciprocation, I'd just give your friend
> the benefit of the doubt. Since you're no longer talking, you don't know what's going
> on in his life.
>
>
That's certainly possible but FWIW we're still friends on FB and he at least appears to be living a normal life. He constantly puts up pics of himself and his family, vacations, spending time with other friends, kids achieving milestones, etc.